The direction of conversations




I am at a pivotable place in my life and career. I have trained myself to stay isolated only sharing what I thought was worthy of being heard. As I am reaching out, building trust in myself and those I decide to put my faith in, I am experiencing feelings that are unfamiliar to me.…

What do you do to have fun?




I’ve been thinking about ‘fun’ lately. It seems like ‘fun’ is another one of those lost child development milestones for adult survivors of child abuse. I mean who has time to learn about fun when you are consumed with surviving.…

Moving past isolation and finding peace




Isolation is one of the biggest feelings to overcome on my healing journey. It has taken me years to accept that I am not alone with my feelings, thoughts and actions as an adult survivor of child abuse.…

Child abuse secrets fuel the terror




Clearly Sandusky earned his 30 to 60 years sentence. What about the sentence his victims have been given? For years, decades they lived, hiding the secret of their story with the devil.…

Have we kept child abuse survivors silent long enough?

Who said the we must be silent about the effects of child abuse on the adult survivor? It baffles me. Universally all survivors of child abuse experience similar if not identical feelings, thoughts and reactions to those feelings and thoughts around their trauma.…

The loneliness of child abuse

There are topics about child abuse that generally, people don’t like to think about, let alone talk about. Depression and suicide are two of those topics.

It is not uncommon for a child who is being abused to develop depression.…

Are you painting on your canvas?

When a baby is born, he or she comes into this world as a perfect, blank canvas. The baby has no job or responsibilities. His or her only task is to depend on those who are called to be the baby’s caretakers.…

August 14 — Lisa Monaco Gonzales talks about child safety

Lisa Monaco GonzalesLisa Monaco Gonzales is an author and advocate of child safety. She graduated from Bryant University in Rhode Island with a Bachelor of Science in business. Her corporate background is in sales, marketing, and training.…

Value of Child Abuse Secrets

Telling SecretsI heard on the radio the other day an interesting observation regarding the Sandusky case. The conversation was about how if Sandusky were as good of a defensive coach as his salary and benefits would imply, then why in all the years he was with Penn State, where there no other job offers?…

Was I Abused as a Child?

Single Rose in Trash CanExperiencing the first memory or flashback of child abuse is confusing and very frightening. The question is always going through the survivors thoughts, ‘Was I abused as a child?’ “Where are these disturbing images coming from?’  What makes the flashbacks more confusing is knowing the foreign images flashing in my head are not from something I would have seen in the childhood I was remembering.…